Julie Soul 0:00
Welcome back to the creative homeschool Podcast. Today I wanted to talk about something that I don't actually talk about very often. Because the truth is, I'm really terrible at opening up emotions, and all of that. For anyone who is familiar with the Enneagram, I am an Enneagram. Eight. That means that we really don't like it when those emotions rear their heads. Well, other than indignant outrage, those feelings of overwhelm those feelings of anxiety of sadness, any of those feelings that, you know, make us feel a little unhappy, those things, we tend to kind of shove away. And the problem with that is, then it does end up in an explosion, kind of like a dormant volcano that nobody actually knew was going to blow and just berries an entire town. So today, I wanted to talk about hand have some strategies for recognizing those feelings. Sometimes there's a large scale life event where, you know, of course, you're going to be sad, I lost my uncle a few weeks ago, it's getting while at the time of the recording, I am getting up to the birthday of my son who was stillborn and would have been a teenager this year. And those things, those things are large, they're large. And of course, you're going to be sad and upset. That's not what I'm talking about. Today, I'm talking about those little times that we don't prioritize the self care. And we might not notice that those little teeny tiny feelings are sneaking up on us. So how do we recognize that? Well, I noticed a couple of weeks ago, that I felt just off and I couldn't really put a finger on. Why, because it wasn't a large scale event. But I noticed that I felt a little bit more withdrawn. I didn't really want to talk to anyone, which is, you know, when you're a public face, that is not exactly a good place to be. And what I realized is that I wasn't prioritizing my own self care. Now, when people hear self care, and when people hear that you're anxious, often, people suddenly suggest that you should go talk to a therapist. And I am not going to say that people who see a therapist that there's anything wrong with that. But what I do want to say is, there are different types of therapies that people need, just depending on who they are. And when you start feeling like that, some people do need a call with their counselor, their social worker, their therapists, of whatever persuasion that you go talk to, for some that can be, you know, a religious figure to, or I have a business coach, he talks to a shaman. But that doesn't necessarily work for everybody. And you need to know your type of therapy. And you need to honor that. So some people do really well in a situation where they're taking time out of their schedule, and they're going to talk to someone who is impartial, who can help them walk through those feelings, like a therapist. Others, you might need to just talk with that friend that one on one with that friend, get a lot of that friend time in, you know, everybody wants that friend or has a friend that you kind of go to when you have those things that you really don't feel like you can share with anyone else. And that tends to be where I'm at. So I've had a lot of those conversations with a particular couple of friends lately. And that is a huge reset. Now your form of therapy might not be talking at all, for you to see a therapist for you to talk to a friend might not be the version of therapy that you actually need. For you. It might be taking a lot of alone time. You know, lots of walks by yourself, where you listen to a podcast, not necessarily this one, or some music, or you just walk in silence because what you need is some time to think now regardless of what kind of therapy or self care that you need, you might need a bubble bath, you might need to go out with friends and just live it up for a night and have like a mom's night out or a dead Saint out. But know your therapy and this all stems from knowing yourself. Make sure that you're not feeling like you have to follow one particular prescribed method of how Bring yourself feel better. Because for me, I'm going to see a therapist isn't helpful, but going to talk with a friend is, and going to the beach with a friend and watching my kids laugh and smile and getting some vitamin D is therapy. Now the second part I want to talk about is, you know, you might know your therapy. But the second part is the crucial part here everyone has to you have to make time for it. Because you can say that you need these things. But unless you actually set aside the time, for this self care, it's not going to happen. Now, if you feel like your house is a mess, and you need to do things for your kids, and your kids clothes need to be organized, you need to take a look at that new curriculum, and you need to figure out what's for dinner, and you start to feel that overwhelmed setting, you might think, how on earth can I carve even a half an hour for these things, I'm going to tell you, my friends, you have to slow down in order to speed up. Because every single time for me, one of my biggest forms of self care and therapy is to drive an hour away out to Lake Michigan, it's our fake ocean. And to sit out there, there's a particular beach that I love when I am out there. One thing that they don't have is very good internet. So I'm kind of not connected. And it helps to just, I can't check my phone, I can kind of get away and check out. And all of that time away. Seems a really big when I plan it, I think how on earth can I spend four hours you know, the hour drive there a couple of hours there and then the hour drive that. But every single time I come back from that trip, I feel better because it's what my soul needs. And I find that I'm more able to handle those outbursts for my kids, I'm able to take a look at the floor. And notice that it just needs a quick vacuum, or a quick sweeping instead of feeling that overwhelm compounded and more overwhelmed, because I took that time for myself. So I want to encourage all of you listening today, no matter how you're listening, even if it's 10 minutes today, find something that sets your soul on fire that can be singing two ad sets, it can be calling that friend and setting up a day that you can go and talk to each other. It can mean scheduling an appointment with a licensed therapist so that you are finally getting that appointment and can be a lot of different things. But unless you actually take that time, you won't start to feel better and you won't start to feel like the amazing person that you are. So take those 10 minutes today, I am really encouraging you. I know that I've been spending a lot of time outside with those friends that I needed. And I have my beach trip planned for Monday. And although it sounds like it's going to be a huge event. I know as soon as I get back, I'm going to feel that much better. Okay, everyone, I am thinking of all of you take those 10 minutes, write it down right now, while not if you're driving, write it down after you've stopped driving, and I'll see you next week.
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